Superman probably hated those tights, but at least he didn’t have to grow wings every time a bad guy came around. In comic books and in life, change often involves pain. Superman was lucky, all he had to do was change clothes and boom – he could fly. Others were not so lucky. Wolverine had to project steel blades through his skin to go into battle, Spiderman got that venomous bite and I’m pretty sure David Banner was in pain every time he transformed into the Hulk. Transitions cause pain and it’s physical if you’re a superhero. For us, mere mortals, the pain is often the emotional kind.
Change is hard. I’m not the first to write that sentence but there’s no way around it. Change is hard. It’s human nature, it seems, to resist. Some of us resist quietly, protesting in private while putting on a brave face. Others take a stand and fight it every step of the way. Superheroes channel their pain and direct it right back at the story’s villain. Humans sometimes do that too; we find someone to blame. Some villains are born for their roles. They wreak havoc on our lives. Others are forced into it out of sheer necessity. But hearing someone say, “No pain, no gain,” doesn’t make it feel any better.
Time after time we all learn to adjust and move forward. That’s the key. Move forward. Moving on just isn’t enough. One can move on in defeat but moving forward means finding the positive and making the most of it. Moving forward means growth has occurred and better days lie ahead. It’s a choice we make, how we deal with change. Buying into the fear that often accompanies change is a recipe for chaos and despair and there’s not always a hero to save the day. When the time presents itself for me to deal with a change, no matter how much I want to resist, I hope if it’s inevitable, I find the grace and strength to accept it and move forward.